This week we are going to look at Emotional Affairs: how to tell if you or your spouse are involved in one, what to do and how to deal with the impact that an emotional affair can have on your relationship.
Dr. Gail Saltz, leading American psychiatrist, talks very candidly about Emotional Affairs in an interview with Oprah.com:
“Many people convince themselves that as long as there’s no sex, it’s not an affair. But it is. An affair really has to do with secrecy, deception of the partner and betrayal. It also has to do with the amount of emotional energy that you put into the other person and are no longer giving your partner. Most people are more disturbed by the breaking of trust than by the sex-it’s what’s most often in denial. They don’t think they’re having an affair at all. The denial keeps them guilt-free, and they feel they don’t have to give it up. They tell themselves, “It’s just a friendship.” So how do you know if your relationship or friendship has evolved into an emotional affair?
- When most meetings and conversations are kept secret from your partner.
- When you say and do things with someone you never would do in front of your spouse.
- When you make a point to arrange private talk with them.
- When you share stuff with them that you don’t with your partner.” Dr. Gail Saltz
See Wednesday’s Minute for more tips on how to discern if a relationship in your life has developed into an emotional affair and what to do about it!